Christmas are approaching! Isn’t it time to celebrate? Not for just anyone. If you are single fearing being alone during the holidays, ones might want the festivities to pass as quickly as possible. “No time frame of the year might be thus dark, uncomfortable and annoying”, you tell yourself”; “If only I had someone to be with, things would have recently been different”, you whisper to yourself time and again.
Using the excursions to think these over could help you understand the true reasons for the failures. You might find, for example, there exists patterns of behaviors that repeat themselves throughout all your past-relationships which always triggered conflicts between you and unfortunately your partners.
Or you might find out that you haven’t been successful locating a partner until now not considering no “suitable” partner originated your way, but because you were definitely over-afraid about developing a long-term serious relationship (for an individual reason or another); and also that you are so needy and dependent on whomever you ran out with that they terminated the partnership; or that you were as a result controlling and demanding that a lot of of your dates just invalidated your attempts to getting closer and maybe even to relocating together.
The secret to make sure you doing so is developing Self-Awareness: getting to understand why you wasn’t able to develop a successful intimacy so far; what made you will fail in your relationships as yet. Is it really so that you just didn’t come across partners have been good enough for you? Is it really so that there were “external conditions” which made it impossible so you might develop and maintain a successful intimacy?
Could it really be you ought to did all you could to find a partner with whom to develop a good relationship but don’t have luck? Well, all these can serve you as arguments and rationalizations to not becoming successful. But is it really the case? Or could there become other reasons for your failed attempts? Could it be that an item in you hinders and prevents you from having a successful relationship?
What makes you think that between occasionally a miracle will happen and out-of-the-blue you will have a wonderful rapport? If you have been failing for having a wonderful relationship until now, what are the odds that you will flourish in having one next 12 months?
Using the holidays’ time for them to figure out what are the true factors behind your inability to have a serious, meaningful, satisfying intimacy, is a time well-spent. The skills you’ll gain will help you find a suitable partner by means of whom to develop and maintain a very good intimacy.
The odds probably do not work in your favour! Therefore, it is up to you to do something on the subject of your situation. Therefore, you may want to use the holidays this year to figure out learning to make a change for next 12 months! How can you use this year’s holidays to become able to have a rapport next year?
Use the excursions to figure out how not to become alone next year. Perhaps you believe that such advice can be ridiculous. Why to think about next year when this year’s holidays are approaching? The reason is simple: if you have been single for a long time, what guarantee are you experiencing that you will not be simple next year as well?